How to Handle the Holidays.
It turns out, once you get engaged, you start becoming a part of your fiance's family (if you weren't already before) and he (or she) becomes a part of yours. That said, you have new family celebrations to attend on the Holidays and are still expected to go to your own. In my (and my fiance's) case, I have 2 separate Thanksgivings to attend (my mom's family and my dad's family) and the fiance's family also has a celebration and their own traditions that he has never missed.
Now this year, we chose to attend our own separate Thanksgiving celebrations. However, as we travel through our lives together, this will no longer be a great solution (i.e. if and when we ever have children, each family will want to see them).
My new proposed solution.... Not to rely on holidays for family visits because then they just become a hassle when they should be joyful celebrations. This said, I think that for Thanksgiving we will simply alternate which celebration we go to each year (his one year, my two the next) and then travel back to his parents to play board games and then the next day decorate the Christmas Tree.
Another fun lesson the fiance and I learned over the weekend... weekend getaways are an absolute must to maintain sanity. We went to Galena, IL Saturday afternoon through Sunday afternoon. It is a picturesque town in Northwestern Illinois. We took (well the fiance got a hold of my camera and took) a million pictures. It was, simply put, amazing. Unfortunately, I was spoiled this past week and weekend and now I just want to be with him during the week more than ever.
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